Oh yes yes yes do I also hate the way that some writers feel like they have to set up their pairing in opposition to the very fabric of the universe to make it more Special. I'm all for conflict and obstacles because DUDE, I eat angst for breakfast. But for instance, I can't stand in Buffy fandom when someone will write a story where all the Scoobies start hating Xander and trying to murder him because he's boning Spike. I mean, have those people even seen canon? The Scoobies love each other. I'm not saying that there's nothing that can drive them apart or make them behave badly towards each other because we've seen those things on the screen, but sheesh. Or the ones that just handwave Anya away like Xander never loved her. *sighs*