I think, though, that people *think* there's a certain way to concrit, and if they can't do it the 'right' way, they can't do it at all. Which is silly, but then - no offense, please! - when you have people who *do* have degrees in things, and use that kind of academic speak that is a bit dense for us 'outsiders'...it makes it harder. Not saying, at all, that you or anyone else has tried to be all 'high falutin' and show us dummies what's what, but i know that a lot of people are intimidated by people with experience, degrees, a more polished way of speaking/writing. I try not to be, but sometimes i sorely feel my lack of college education.

And yes - exactly. You paraphrased me exactly. I have no interest in exploring how Buffy feels - she doesn't really excite me. She's so *foreign* to me, in many ways - ways i can't change because then she wouldn't be Buffy. And yes, i have no desire to expose certain bits of myself to the world, and a fem-centric story would most likely do that.

I *am* planning a mary-sueish fic, though. Heh. I'm going to write pretty much what you said up there, except i believe the woman is going to be a client rather than a friend/neighbor. We shall see! :)