See, this is why I both believe that I'm not actually in Fandom at Large and am rather glad about that. I had no idea that Fandom thinks only penetrative sex counts, or that there aren't a lot of kinky fics outside of specialized comms or memes. I guess I must be hanging out in a darker underbelly of fandom than I was aware, where there's lots of frottage and bondage and -- um. Maybe that's TMI.

Anyway, I'll be the first to admit that I'm not terribly observant, and I do have sort of a hard time with the concept of "fandom" being anything but a very loosely connected bunch of Venn diagrams. I'm probably the wrong person to weigh in on any question about fandom-as-a-whole. But it's just...I see these arguments about how to decide whether a story is gen, slash, het, etc, and eventually I start to feel sort of grumpy, and like, if I label it John/Ronon PG and someone gets shirty with me about how it can't be slash because there's not enough graphic penetrative sex, erm. This is where I start thinking dude, it's got the pairing and the rating, why do you care whether it's labeled slash or gen?

Argh. I sometimes believe that fandom and I are not well suited to each other.