Hmm. I think I agree with him that you can't know another person 100% but I also don't see that as a negative. It can be healthy to keep parts of yourself private even in a long term relationship, and I like the idea that even after decades Cam and I are still discovering things about each other.

Cam was diagnosed with ADHD about three years ago, and since then his self esteem has grown immensely. I wouldn't say he's changed, more that he's finally blossoming into his true self without so much self hatred. It's beautiful.