Lorraine Bares her Ass, so to Speak

[lunabee34]

Warning: Yes, it's that time. Lorraine!Sharing time.

I've been thinking lately about the way fanfic has altered the way I think about RL. For instance, in the matter of butt-loving--prior to my immersion in fanfic, I'd had a wretched encounter with an idiot who thought Carmex has an off-label use as lube and another situation not of my choosing or under my control. Suffice it to say that I was extremely disinterested in anal sex. But then I started reading slash, and I thought, if Xander likes it more than even chocolate, there's gotta be something to this thing. And, by god, even though I don't have a magical orgasm button prostate, there is!! So here's an instance of fanfic challenging my perceptions and allowing me to have a positive experience I probably wouldn't have had otherwise.

But then I got to thinking. Surely the converse is true. Although it's never been my extreme good fortune experience to participate in a threesome, I"m sure they don't proceed as smoothly, non-jealously, and non-awkwardly as they do in fanfic. So I'm wondering: 1. have any of you had an experience like mine where fanfic opened up anvenues for you and changed your mind about something or 2. have any of you been disillusioned by fanfic, disappointed by fanfic portrayals vs. reality?

Also in a randomness, earlier this week, when I was sad, it rained--a great wall of water that fell to the earth and shattered. I wrote a letter and stood in the parking lot and let it fall into the wet at my feet. I expected the ink to run and become indecipherable and the paper to melt. Neither of these things happened. It was utterly lacking as a symbolic gesture.

Comments

[saifai.livejournal.com]

I get what you're saying. Yes, fanfic has changed my perspective on many things, the most obvious of which is the matter of "butt-loving". *snerk* Didn't have an opinion on it one way or another prior to fanfic.

As for disillusionment, I can only say that it isn't real life. It's odd you know, for me to read something angsty because it's gutteral and real. It makes you bleed. For me that's probably because I been there done that and don't need another t-shirt thankyouverymuch. I prefer the stories that give me a happy ending. Make 'em bleed, fine. Just be sure they're smiling at the end. I want hugs damnit!

That is what is so disillusioning about fanfic is that it's so romantic compared to how things really are. There's no theme music. There's no poetic gestures. Jokes are often lost on people. *shrug*

But then you keep on reading fanfic because it's a vice. It's a fantasy. It's a curiosity you just can't escape because damnit them boys are so hot together! *tilts head to get better visuals*

*gr*

On the subject of threesomes, I have only been there for about two-thirds of the act. Had to bow out before the final scene from fighting for stage time with my co-star... for lack of a better way to put it. Jealousy abound is all I can say.

[lunabee34.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the whole threesome in fanfic phenomenon intrigues me. The only one I can think of that I've read that tries to deal with the dynamic realistically is janedavitt and wesleysgirl's Saturation and it's sequel Pervasion. It's a Giles/Xander/Spike trio, and it does portray the three of them as having to work at making that kind of relationship work. But most of the threesomes I've read don't deal with any of those issues, not that they should necessarily. Porn is it's own goodness. LOL I'd just like to read more where things go more realistically.

[saifai.livejournal.com]

Realistic can even be done with hugs. *nods* Right? Saturation and Pervasion were good ones. Just the right amount of everything.

Though, I'll admit a lovely PWP theresome is nice once in awhile too. *gr*

[hermionesviolin.livejournal.com]

I've been playing in my head with the idea of a Xander/Anya/Xander (posited on Xander staying as two separate persons post-"The Replacement") and have really enjoyed playing with Xander's insecurities. I'm such a realism freak, and one of the Things that has really grabbed me recently is playing with the less idealized aspects of sexual relationships.

[lunabee34.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a fic I'd very much like to read.

playing with the less idealized aspects of sexual relationships.

Yes. I really enjoy reading those kinds of fics--awkward sex, things not working out exactly as the characters intend, etc. There's this great fic by _beetle_, which has Xander and Jesse having sex and it's a little awkward and there's laughing, and it just felt so *real* to read.