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Aug. 24th, 2019 08:14 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lunabee341. Thanks to nightdog_barks for finding that Stephen King story for me: "That Feeling, You Can Only Say What It Is in French" from Everything's Eventual. It exists! Yay!
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The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts by Lee Baer
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Clearly and accessibly written while also impeccably researched. Really only deals with intrusive thoughts that are violent, sexual, and blasphemous in nature.
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I had to skim large swathes of this because the book recounts in great detail the intrusive thoughts the patients featured have about hurting their children and etc. It also talks a lot about Columbine and Susan Smith murdering her kids (which had both happened recently) and people's fears that they might be the same kind of violent. There's also a big section (designed to show people who experience intrusive thoughts that they aren't likely to become child murderers, for example) devoted to stats about who *does* commit child harm and why.
But, the book reaffirms the methods that the other books suggest which is another useful data point that not avoiding the context for the thought or the thought itself and accepting the thought without judgment is the evidence based best practice.
3. Josh had an MRI this week; he's been having issues with his hand this whole summer. Monday he goes back to figure out treatment; cross your fingers it's not surgery! I suspect it'll just be immobilization of some sort, but surgery was floated as an option at the initial consult before the MRI.
4. Man, being a grown-up is expensive. We need to upgrade our life insurance. The policies we have now are old 5 year term policies that State Farm doesn't even offer anymore, and they are eventually going to be extremely expensive. They'd also only cover less than half the mortgage. So we need policies that cover our current level of debt and that are locked in for decades, but damn is that a lot of money to pay to hope we don't die. LOL I don't get so fussed about the health insurance premiums because we use the hell out of our health care system. I always feel like I'm getting my money's worth. But this? Bah.
nightdog_barks for finding that Stephen King story for me: "That Feeling, You Can Only Say What It Is in French" from Everything's Eventual. It exists! Yay!2.
The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts by Lee BaerMy rating: 4 of 5 stars
Clearly and accessibly written while also impeccably researched. Really only deals with intrusive thoughts that are violent, sexual, and blasphemous in nature.
View all my reviews
I had to skim large swathes of this because the book recounts in great detail the intrusive thoughts the patients featured have about hurting their children and etc. It also talks a lot about Columbine and Susan Smith murdering her kids (which had both happened recently) and people's fears that they might be the same kind of violent. There's also a big section (designed to show people who experience intrusive thoughts that they aren't likely to become child murderers, for example) devoted to stats about who *does* commit child harm and why.
But, the book reaffirms the methods that the other books suggest which is another useful data point that not avoiding the context for the thought or the thought itself and accepting the thought without judgment is the evidence based best practice.
3. Josh had an MRI this week; he's been having issues with his hand this whole summer. Monday he goes back to figure out treatment; cross your fingers it's not surgery! I suspect it'll just be immobilization of some sort, but surgery was floated as an option at the initial consult before the MRI.
4. Man, being a grown-up is expensive. We need to upgrade our life insurance. The policies we have now are old 5 year term policies that State Farm doesn't even offer anymore, and they are eventually going to be extremely expensive. They'd also only cover less than half the mortgage. So we need policies that cover our current level of debt and that are locked in for decades, but damn is that a lot of money to pay to hope we don't die. LOL I don't get so fussed about the health insurance premiums because we use the hell out of our health care system. I always feel like I'm getting my money's worth. But this? Bah.
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Date: 2019-08-24 02:59 pm (UTC)Boy do I wish some of this had been around when I was a young adult or an adolescent, or even a kid, though. By now a lot of the patterns have been stamped in for decades and are kind of hard to deal with.
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Date: 2019-08-24 09:41 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2019-08-25 01:41 am (UTC)*hugs*
My parents told me that Obama was probably the Antichrist or least a demon?
So, I also have experience in parents being completely fucked up and WTF and OMG WHY ARE YOU INSANE?
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Date: 2019-08-25 01:53 am (UTC)My parents told me that Obama was probably the Antichrist or least a demon?
//HUGSback Ohhh my fucking God. Families of origin, man.
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Date: 2019-08-25 01:56 am (UTC)It's pretty much nuts.
And they love me for sure, but they are crazy people.
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Date: 2019-08-25 01:58 am (UTC)The Bach Flower Remedies are made from wild flowers and are safe for the whole family including pets. (PS. My negative emotions were not cast out.)
And yeah, my parents obviously loved me, and never set out to maliciously fuck me up (like one therapist put it: "It's not like they hid the vowels in your building blocks or anything"). But my God, they were terrible at parenting.
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Date: 2019-08-26 10:51 pm (UTC)My parents were pretty good parents to kid!me. The second I started to grow up and assert myself, then they started to suck. They also were not malicious, but they were definitely damaging without meaning to be.